"Embracing my singleness" was an answer option by AARP, who sent out a questionnaire asking what my plans are for Valentine’s day. The question options were typical of what you would expect from such a questionnaire. Sweets for the sweetheart or dinner for two, etc. One answer was “Will embrace my singleness.” After filling in my answer, AARP sent a follow-up message giving you the total answers to date. I was struck when it showed that the number one answer was “Will embrace my singleness.” Boy, there are a lot of us singles out there!
Valentine’s Day, along with New Year’s Eve remains the two hardest days to get through since Pat passed away. Oh what we take for granted when we have it and what is missed when we don’t.
What fills me during these times, is the reality of how much I miss the tenderness of touch. I can close my eyes and still remember the moments, but it only succeeds in making me yearn for that long hug and warm embrace even more. I don’t know if I will ever be able to say that to be without intimacy is okay, but I have to find ways to get beyond the ache.
With so many single men and women out there, one would think some places would do something to create a welcome to those without partners.
I have kept one promise to myself. I have begun to invite friends in. Oh not a big party kind of invite, but small, intimate groups so conversation and laughter can occupy the time. I remembered, with my last invitation, how much I loved preparing the meal and planning for friends. And when they came, the joy of conversation and the hugs hello and good-bye felt wonderful!
Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you!
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